Disclosure: Travel and accommodations were provided by STX Entertainment.
Have you ever sat down and really examined your relationship with your mom? Losing my mom in August, I’ve thought a lot about this. How much I’m like her. How she molded me into the mother I am today. Just how much her being my mom has shaped me into the person I am today. And, as the mother of 4 daughters myself, I know full well how important that mother-daughter dynamic is. In Bad Moms Christmas (opening November 1st), we meet the moms who raised THE Bad Moms.
Bad Moms Christmas
In addition to meeting Mila Kunis, Kristen Bell, and Kathryn Hahn, we also had the opportunity to sit down and chat with Susan Sarandon and Cheryl Hines. Coincidentally, each of the actresses have a daughter of their own, so we asked how they personally related to their character. Hines plays Kristen Bell’s mom, Sandy, in the movie and says she is “sadly” very much like her character. She has a 13-year old daughter and “just loves her and wants to be with her.” But, as she watches herself as Sandy, she feels as though she’s feeling mean and thinks that may be a problem. Of course, Susan Sarandon told her that she personally thinks it’s a “problem not to take a bite out of a one-year-old because they’re just so luscious.” Right? Love those babies!
Sarandon says she is physical with her kids as well. In fact, she went on to say,
…when you have a job outside the home it curtails those tendencies to be just like overbearing and it kind of naturally makes a space for you because you have other stuff you have to do. I find now that I’m a grandmother that I realize as a mother how constant your child or children are –in your bubble because now my daughter is a really good mom. She’s got a great husband. The kids are fabulous.
Isn’t that what we are all hoping for as our children get older? Sarandon also stated that once she had grandkids, she “experienced a love relationship where [she] wasn’t the one holding all the loose ends.” As moms we put a lot of pressure on ourselves based on our own expectations or the judgement of others. When speaking of Bad Moms Christmas, she believes the movie proclaims that you should ”
build time for yourself—which is the hardest thing to do. And that we only have ourselves to blame if we don’t find a way to do that.
Before we departed, we asked both Hines and Sarandon one final poignant question: If you could tell like the young mom with kids right now, the young working mom with kids, what’s one thing you would tell her?
Susan Sarandon: Forgive yourself for not being super perfect. If you’re happy your kid knows that you’re happy, and all the guilt you feel for not being there every second, that your kid will admire you. You’ll be raising kids who have an expectation that you’re more than just a mom. And that’s a really good thing. But it doesn’t matter if your house is messy for the weekend. It doesn’t matter if you’re eating leftovers or ordering pizza. What matters is that they know that you love them and then when you’re there for them you’re really there for them, and you’re happy to be with them.
Cheryl Hines: I think it’s important to just take a little bit off of yourself and say you’re not going to be perfect. There’s not going to be a perfect day. There’s not going to be a perfect Christmas. There’s not going to be a perfect Thanksgiving. There are going to be perfect moments. And when you have those perfect moments it’s great to say, ‘oh my God’ or we’re having like a perfect moment. And then you know, so the day that you’re not having a perfect moment we’re [all okay].
Being a mom, no matter what stage of life you’re in, is filled with moments of tough-love. It’s a journey, and one that you don’t necessarily have to go alone.
A Bad Moms Christmas follows our three under-appreciated and over-burdened women as they rebel against the challenges and expectations of the Super Bowl for moms: Christmas. And if creating a more perfect holiday for their families wasn’t hard enough, they have to do all of that while hosting and entertaining their own mothers. By the end of the journey, our moms will redefine how to make the holidays special for all and discover a closer relationship with their mothers.
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