How to Find What Makes You Happy
We all want to be happy. But sometimes, in the rush of routines, responsibilities, and reacting to life, we lose touch with what actually brings us joy. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what makes me happy anymore,” you’re not alone — and this post is for you.
The good news? Happiness doesn’t always come from huge life changes. Often, it starts with tiny shifts in how we pay attention to ourselves, what we say yes to, and how we spend our time.
Let’s explore some real, practical ways to reconnect with what makes you happy.
1. Reflect on What Used to Make You Happy
Sometimes the best clues are in your past.
Ask yourself:
- What did I love doing as a kid?
- What activities made me lose track of time?
- When was the last time I felt truly joyful — and what was I doing?
Don’t worry if your answers seem random or small — maybe it was dancing in your room, painting, hiking, writing silly poems, or just being outside. These moments can hold powerful hints about what still lights you up.
2. Try the “Joy Journal” Trick
For one week, take 2 minutes at the end of each day to write down:
- One thing that made you smile
- One thing that gave you energy
- One thing that drained you
By the end of the week, you’ll start to notice patterns. What brings you joy? What zaps your spark? This simple check-in is like holding up a mirror to your happiness.
3. Pay Attention to What You’re Naturally Drawn To
What kinds of books do you read, shows do you binge, or topics do you search on YouTube late at night?
Those little pulls can point to big passions — or at least activities that give you energy and excitement. Maybe you’re drawn to cooking, travel, design, personal growth, or helping others. Whatever it is, it matters.
4. Ask Yourself: "What Would I Do If I Didn’t Have to Be Productive?"
If money, time, or pressure weren’t an issue… how would you spend a free afternoon?
Would you be painting? Baking? Walking through a park? Volunteering? Taking photos? Learning a new skill? That gut answer can tell you so much.
5. Try New Things (Without Pressure to Be Good at Them)
The best way to figure out what brings you joy? Explore.
Try a class. Watch a how-to video. Visit a place you’ve never been. Say “yes” to something random. The point isn’t to master something — it’s to see how it feels.
“You don’t have to love everything you try. But each new experience teaches you more about yourself.”
6. Ask Others What They See in You
Sometimes the people around us see patterns we miss. Ask a trusted friend or family member:
- “What do you think lights me up?”
- “When do you see me at my happiest?”
You might be surprised by what they reflect back — and it may open the door to rediscovering something you’ve forgotten.
7. Check in With Your Body, Not Just Your Brain
Happiness isn’t just a thought — it’s a feeling. When you’re doing something that makes you happy, your body will usually tell you:
- Do you feel lighter?
- Do you smile without thinking about it?
- Do you lose track of time?
Start noticing your physical and emotional cues. They’re powerful indicators of what’s worth more of your time and energy.
8. Let Go of What Should Make You Happy
This one’s big.
Sometimes we chase things we think are supposed to make us happy — promotions, stuff, routines — but deep down, they don’t. And that’s okay.
You have permission to rewrite the story and define happiness on your terms.
9. Make Space for Joy (Don’t Wait for “Someday”)
Happiness doesn’t need to wait for a perfect moment. Even if you’re in a busy season or facing challenges, you can still create space for joy — in tiny, daily doses.
- Light a candle before dinner
- Dance while folding laundry
- Say yes to the walk
- Start the playlist
- Text the friend
Small things matter. They are the big things.
Final Thought: Happiness Isn’t a Destination
It’s a practice.
Finding what makes you happy isn’t about changing your whole life overnight. It’s about tuning in, trying new things, letting go of old expectations, and giving yourself permission to enjoy life in ways that feel right to you.
You’re allowed to be curious. You’re allowed to grow. And you’re definitely allowed to choose joy.
