How to Love a Bipolar Partner Without Becoming Codependent

When partners have extreme mood changes, like being so happy at one moment, then shifts to their too sorry-a-self the next, maybe they have bipolar disorder.

Simply put, they shift from one emotional polar to the next. And it’s a psychological challenge that needs professional management.

But if you and your partner keep it to yourselves and fight together, maybe you can use some how-to’s to get past its hurdles.

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Some Ways to Living and Loving a Bipolar 

Educate Yourself

You need to know the whats and whys of bipolar disorder so you can deal with it, especially if your beloved has it.

Knowing its signs, what can trigger it, and the ways to treat it are most helpful. It will help you love your partner better, even with their condition.

Some people in love may just attribute it to their partner’s uniqueness and tolerate it for some time. But conflicts start to nag for attention that, at some point, becomes unbearable.

So, it is best to understand firsthand what bipolar disorder is so you can empathize with your partner. 

Your knowledge about their situation will help you find ways to reaffirm your commitment to a BPD partner . A better half with bipolar disorder (BPD) can be very challenging to live with.

By educating yourself all about it, you will have more room to understand, and you can support and cope effectively. 

And that is when you can create a healthier and more understanding connection. 

Encourage Professional Help

It may be a success story for many, but you need to start with it first to know if it works. The timing and emotional condition might be a factor, but find the best moment to gently suggest professional help.

Support and push the idea of getting therapists and psychiatrists so your partner can get better help.

It is not only your partner who has to go through therapy–you need it, too.

There are just emotional see-saws in bipolar that need a more straightforward and scientific explanation. Getting emotional about it won’t help you a bit.

Therapies can help couples get more information about the causes and possible workarounds for their conflicts.

That is the same when you want to continue loving a bipolar partner. There are just issues that couples cannot resolve on their own. 

Especially when it comes to psychological issues of bipolar, getting more information and professional insights is needed. 

Set Boundaries

For partners who have bipolar, setting clear boundaries with them can be very helpful to maintain your well-being.

Otherwise, you get to do what they want all the time and may sacrifice little comforts that will make you regret it later.

When you have a bipolar partner, it’s best not to hesitate to say no and express your limits.

Being firm with what you want will help you cope with your situation and help prevent enabling behaviors, like tolerating your partner’s destructive habits. 

When you set and communicate these boundaries, you create a more comfortable space that also considers your needs.

It will foster a supportive environment without compromising your own mental and emotional health. 

Always giving priority to your loved one’s needs and thinking that they deserve all of life’s best can be dangerous to you.

Overly focusing on your partner’s struggles can make you codependent, and somehow, it’s a disorder, too.

Encourage Self-Care

Always make time to remind your partner about how much they need to care for themselves.

You can help them with activities that promote mental well-being, like mind or memory games.

These can stimulate and let their brain focus on things other than themselves or your presence.

A walk after meals, healthy eating, sufficient sleep, and other “must-dos” can help them become more self-reliant.

These activities may not make their bipolar symptoms go away instantly, but they will help them cope with it.

Celebrate Small Victories

Acknowledge and celebrate some small victories as they happen and as your partner progresses, whether in therapy or medication.

A positive affirmation, like special night outs for these victories, can be a powerful motivator.

These celebrations can encourage your partner to do their best in therapy and medical sessions, no matter the hurdle.

It is not only about them coping with bipolar — it’s also about you trying your best to acknowledge their best efforts for your relationship.

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