Do you find yourself constantly striving to be the best? Perfect in everything you do? Setting high standards for yourself that almost completely unattainable?
Yeah. Me too.
Hi, I’m Staci and I’m a perfectionist.
Be Happy with Yourself
No one’s perfect. Deep down, I think we all know this, but very few of us are actually happy with it.
Part of loving ourselves, though, is learning to love those little imperfections that we cannot change. Learning how to be happy with ourselves.
I can honestly tell you that it’s both physically and mentally exhausting trying to achieve perfection, especially since perfection is really an unattainable goal.
So we need to stop beating ourselves up about what we can’t do, and start learning to love ourselves for what we can do.
But how do you change a lifetime of striving for perfection?
Well, here are some ways you can start learning how to be happy with yourself and accepting all of your little “imperfections.”
Let Go of the Need to Be Perfect
Simply put, giving yourself permission to be imperfect does so much for the body, mind, and soul. It has almost a freeing feeling to know it’s okay that you have flaws and that you love yourself—flaws and all.
You hear it all the time and you’ve probably said it to others: no one’s perfect. Well, now it’s time to realize that that goes for you too.
After you have let go of this need to be perfect, you are free—free to enjoy the small things and be happy with the things you do pretty darn close to perfect and the things that are going well in life.
Our personal and professional lives have a way of crossing paths, but think of the good you can do if you don’t allow the negative to cross paths and only allow the positive.
Remembering the good things in life might help put the not-so-good things in that moment into perspective so you can work through them faster.
When you start letting the negative into the other areas of your life, it just makes those other areas negative and you end up with this snowball effect of nothing going right.
Compartmentalize Your Feelings
Trying to keep the negative stuff from the positive can seem next to impossible.
However, if you identify the things that make you unhappy, then you can get a better handle on these things when they do occur.
And you know those people who always seem to go with the flow about things and don’t let anything get them down?
Well, you’ll be able to do that. Some people might naturally be able to do this, so you might have to work a little harder at going with the flow, but it will be so worth it because you will always know there’s an end in sight.
Stop the Negative Self-Talk
Negative self-talk is just damaging and the only purpose it serves is to keep you unhappy.
So the next time you look in the mirror and want to say, “I’m so fat,” change it to, “I’m so beautiful.”
Don’t just say it, though; believe it.
Remember to think of the things that make you happy.
Do you have great hair, a great smile, or beautiful eyes? Focus on that and then you can see more clearly.
Only you have the power to change your way of thinking. You’re in charge of whether or not you’re happy. So make it a conscious effort to focus more on the positive and less on the negative.
If you really embrace this change, then you won’t be disappointed with the results.