Women are more likely to suffer from a lack of confidence than men.
It is very common for women to experience a loss of confidence, especially after having children. Building confidence takes time and effort, but it is possible to improve self-esteem.
In this guide, we’ll share some top tips to help moms increase their confidence.
Identify and avoid triggers
Many of us have specific triggers that make us feel worthless, inadequate, stressed or anxious. If doing certain things or seeing certain people has a negative impact on your confidence, avoid these triggers.
Perhaps you’ve recently had a baby and seeing some family members or friends makes you feel apprehensive, or maybe scrolling through social media makes you question whether you’re doing a good job.
If you have a negative reaction, protect yourself. Limit exposure to triggers and devote more time to people or hobbies or activities that make you feel confident and content.
Sometimes, you might have to make difficult decisions, but it’s important to look after yourself. Often, taking a break or making temporary changes will give you the strength and confidence you need to rebuild relationships or do things you used to enjoy in the past.
Avoid comparing yourself to others
It is incredibly difficult to avoid comparing yourself to others in a world of social media, TV shows and content and adverts aimed at parents, working moms and new moms.
You may feel like you’re constantly bombarded with glossy TV adverts or social media images that portray a life that is very different from your own. The truth is that the families you see online or in magazines and TV shows often represent a rose-tinted vision.
It’s also important to remember that some people you see at baby or toddler classes or friends you hang out with who have children may not tell the full story when you ask how they are or talk to them about parenting.
They may leave out the negatives and difficulties, or provide a snapshot of their lives. Don’t worry if your life seems chaotic or stressful in comparison and don’t feel that you have to compete to be the parent of the year.
Nobody is perfect and everybody has similar struggles. You’re not the only one who craves the odd day off or has a child that throws tantrums in the grocery store. Focus on what you’re doing and being the best mom you can be.
Appreciate your body
A recent study revealed that only 6% of women ‘strongly agreed’ that they were happy with their bodies. Having a child is a major overhaul for your body and mind and it can take a long time to adjust to a new body and get used to what you see in the mirror.
It can be tough to accept changes and to feel confident if you don’t like what you see. There is no magical cure for low self-esteem, but it is crucial to try to focus on the positives. Appreciate what your body has done and try to be kind to yourself.
Tread carefully when appraising your appearance and try not to put too much pressure on yourself to lose weight or gain muscle. It’s very common for women to find it hard to drop pounds and tone up after having children, and this often affects confidence.
When you’re ready, try to be proactive in building your confidence and improving body image. Exercise regularly and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Manage stress and take time to rest and recover.
If you’ve tried self-help techniques and you want to explore other options, such as cosmetic surgery, conduct extensive research and arrange consultations with experienced doctors.
If you’re conscious about excess skin on your stomach that you can’t seem to shift, look for the best tummy tuck surgeon. If you feel like your breasts are saggy, find out more about breast lift procedures.
It’s critical to ensure that you only consider treatment if it is what you want to do. You should never think about having surgery because of other people or external pressures.
Find time for your happiness
Being a parent is challenging, not least because it’s a full-time job. When you have a child, you commit your time and energy to ensuring that your little one is healthy and happy.
It’s incredible to be a devoted parent and to want the best for your child, but it’s also important to take good care of yourself. Make time for your happiness.
You may be blissfully content when you spend time with your child but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking a break from time to time.
Hang out with friends and family members, go for a walk in the forest or park, paint a picture, read a book or put on some music and enjoy 20 minutes on your own soaking in a warm bubble bath.
We all need time to de-stress, relax and enjoy a bit of time away from being a mom. Don’t feel guilty if you long to have half an hour to yourself, a break to enjoy a coffee with your best friend, or a night away with your partner every so often.
Focusing on your happiness as well as that of your family will make you a better parent and partner.
Treat yourself to a pampering session
A pampering session can boost your confidence in an instant. Simple things like running a bath with oils, having a massage, putting a face mask on, buying eyeshadow, BB cream and mascara makeup or booking a haircut or color or a manicure can make you feel like a million dollars.
If your confidence is low, try one of these quick and easy pick-me-ups.
It’s very common for moms to experience a loss of confidence. Women often feel conscious about their appearance, their parenting abilities and the way they manage working, running a household and raising kids.
If you’re a mom and you long to feel more confident, it’s essential to be realistic and to focus on your achievements and strengths.
Be kind to yourself, don’t compare yourself to others and avoid triggers that make you feel anxious or inadequate. Appreciate your body, treat yourself to a pampering session from time to time and make time for your happiness, as well as that of your child.